Kenneth at one month…


Little Ken is one month old! We are extremely fortunate and grateful that he is healthy and sweet and progressing perfectly. It is amazing that he is a miniature human made of equal parts Travis and me. He is not quite what I expected, but instead a unique individual with a distinct personality starting to emerge. He is a lot of fun. He looks like Travis, my brothers, my dad, my father-in-law, and myself all at once. The last month has flown by and dragged on. I hope Kenneth has enjoyed getting to know us as much as we’ve loved meeting him.


Facts about Kenneth at one month:

  • He weighed 9 lbs 10.5 oz at his four week doctor appointment. Two pounds more than at birth!
  • He sleeps in 3-4 hour chunks at night… which isn’t too bad on his mom.
  • He is a champion eater and has been meeting all of his dirty diaper quotas.
  • It took a few weeks, but he has been making eye contact, making lots of cute noises, and even cracking a few adorable smiles.
  • He loves riding in his baby carriers and being swaddled at night.
  • He makes endless funny faces, especially when I give him kisses on his face.
  • He has had lots of visitors and he has been on trips to Shake Shack, Ample Hills, Calexico, and Prospect Park.
  • He is the best baby in the world!


Postpartum Update:

I was ready for a lot of the things that come with bringing home a new baby — sleepless nights, getting little accomplished except baby care, dealing with a flabby, out-of-shape, recovering body, emotional highs and lows — but you add it all together and this new life can feel TOUGH sometimes. Thankfully, Travis has been a huge help. He has done the grocery shopping and much of the cooking. And despite being back at work full time now, he stays up with the baby when I desperately need to sleep. We are adults and I know we will get through this early baby time just as billions of other parents have. Hopefully, we will even remember it fondly. I try to keep things in perspective and remember that everything is actually going very smoothly…

BUT I need to vent about one major challenge… breast feeding. Ugh. Overall, Ken and I have had a lot of success and I am going to stick with it, but I am sad to admit that I don’t really like it. I had high hopes in the first week, but then the pain set in. It was excruciating for about a week. There was blood and blisters and a lot of tears. It felt terrible to dread feeding him. But as all of the lactation resources predicted, things have gotten better. (These nipple pads and this lanolin help.) I no longer dread it, but it is still uncomfortable, time-consuming, and utterly (udderly?) draining. I have a low level dehydration headache at all times despite my best hydration efforts. Also, my boobs are unmanageably huge and sore and stretched to the max. I know Ken is getting plenty to eat (he makes lots of dirty diapers and is gaining weight) but his feeding schedule is still unpredictable, and he can be quite demanding! Oh, and my weight is absolutely NOT “falling off” as everyone said it would if I breast fed…

It has only been a month and I know things will continue to get easier, but even compared to my fertility struggles, the pregnancy, and childbirth, I consider breast feeding during this postpartum period to be my least favorite and most difficult challenge. Of course, maybe my feelings will change once I get through it…

15 Replies to “Kenneth at one month…”

  1. Thanks for saying he looks some like me. Of course if he looks like his dad he is bound to look like me also.
    We can’t wait to meet him.

  2. Even when it’s easy, nursing is SO hard! I said, “I’m quitting in two weeks” for an entire year. But eventually it becomes second nature. (And if it doesn’t, that’s okay too) I wasn’t breastfed and I turned out amazingly, lol! Just think, you alone have sustained a life for an entire month, that’s quite amazing! Great job!!

  3. I didn’t like breastfeeding my first either. I did it for three months and honestly just quit. I would completely agree with your statement that it is the hardest thing. Then I had my second baby and it was so different. She was a different feeder if that makes sense and was easy. I was able to breastfeed her and my third for almost a full year. And I ended up enjoying it and ultimately missing it. That said I’ve often thought about what was different. I think my confidence was different. I wasn’t doing every single thing for the first time with the other two. I was already in mommy mode. Anyway I hope that you know that you are an amazing mom and whatever you choose for Ken will be done with love. I have enjoyed your updates. Thank you for allowing us a peak inside your life 🙂

  4. Hi Rachel
    I know you probably have gotten so much advice already, but it really does get easier! I didn’t enjoy nursing Violet in the beginning and then around 3 months it got so much easier and enjoyable. The second time around is even better. Even if it doesn’t come to you and Kenneth, know that you are giving him a wonderful gift no matter how long you do it – 1 month, 3 months, 1 year. I love reading your updates about your pregnancy and now your handsome little guy!

  5. I’ve been reading your dad’s blog for years but have been recently following Ken’s story on here. I thought I would add some advice on the breastfeeding. My wife breast fed our oldest for three months and our youngest for a month due to her job at the time. After that, she only breast fed them due to convenience such as long car trips, etc.

    However, after the first three months or one month was up, she went to using the breast pump all the time. It was a lot less harsh on her nipples so she didn’t get sore. It freed up her hands so she could do other things like reading or typing while the pump was working. It was a lot more convenient for her to have regular pump times than to feed the girls when they demanded. It also allowed me to get in on the action by feeding the girls their milk more often to allow her to sleep a little longer, go somewhere, or just do something else.

    Although they say that pumping reduces outflow sooner, she was able to keep at it for 11 months for both. Probably at six or seven months for both, we had to start supplementing to keep enough milk for them but they were getting breast milk for almost a year.

    Wish you luck and enjoy that baby. Unfortunately the saying is true and kids grow up way too fast!

  6. Hi Rachel, your son is so cute! Sorry to hear about the breastfeeding. You certainly aren’t alone. The beginning is so hard. It does get better, but it might not be the most enjoyable mama task you ever do, and that’s really OK. That’s an interesting suggestion from Ed–my friend did that too, it’s call Exclusive Pumping or EP – lots of advice out there on the internets about it. Another thought: I always try to pair breastfeeding with something enjoyable for me, like my favorite TV show or a blog to read on my iPad…or chocolate perhaps? I also liked “Soothies” pads cooled down in the fridge.
    I actually decided to stop nursing and I wrote about it:
    Also had a post about breastfeeding my first baby (in case you need some reading material for those long feeds!)

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